(Copyright 1998 Nancy Ava Miller) 
  PRINCESS LYNNE - A RICH AND VARIED LIFE 
Introducing: Lynne!—And Why Is She a "Princess"? 
Interview by Nancy Ava Miller, M.Ed. 
(410) 719-9026

This is the third in a series of interviews with everyday people who incorporate S&M into their love relationships. 

Several years passed before I actually conversed with Lynne G., the subject of this interview, and my first real chat with her was over the phone. I remember thinking then: "Wow! This lady is really brilliant!" 

Of course, I'd seen Lynne floating around the DC S&M clubs for years, and probably had shared a word or two of small talk with her as well now and again. She often carried a whip or rod, as I recall, and usually wore a wispy black dress which revealed her thighs—contoured and firm. The image was one of perverted Tinkerbell—light and frivolous yet somehow ominous and strict with that black magic wand. Princess Lynne often donned a smile, or perhaps—at times—a smirk—as if she were bemused at the S&M around her, entertained by life itself. Her black hair fell 'round her neck and shoulders—wispy as her dress only it—unlike her hem—was long. 

What I did not know then about Lynne—in those early days of PEP (the S&M network which brought me back from New Mexico to my hometown of Washington in 1987, 1988, 1990, and again in 1993)— what I didn't know was that Princess Lynne is as much a lady, as a "princess." And a poet as well. She is educated, bright, loving, compassionate—another glowing example, perhaps, of your everyday S&Mer. Here is Lynne's story; here is her poetry! Meet, please: Princess Lynne! 

Nancy: Lynne, you and I met in the DC area in 1988, when you attended some of my parties and fund-raisers for a proposed S&M support group in Philadelphia. At one such party, you met a man—Don—whom you've formed a close relationship with. Could you please explain the nature of your relationship with Don, and what it was that initially drew you to him? 

Princess Lynne: Don (a.k.a. Miss Donna) is simply the best! He's my best friend, my lover, and my sissy slave. I'd seen him at a lot of parties, but had never really gotten to know him. Then, other friends in the scene started telling me how much Don liked me. This struck me as odd, since he never seemed to pay much attention to me. So finally I called him and asked him to drive me to a party in Washington, DC, that I knew we were both planning to attend He treated that event as a date, and we've been together ever since. 

Nancy: In the S&M community, you are known as "Princess Lynne"—not "Mistress." Not "Madame." Not "Goddess." But "Princess." Somehow the title fits, though not in the pejorative sense of the term—not, for instance, as one might label a vain woman full of false pride. Could you please explain how you became "Princess Lynne," and how you feel about that moniker? 

Princess Lynne: When I first got started in the scene 14 years ago, the man in my life at that time called me Princess. Over time in the scene, Princess went from being a personal endearment to being my scene title. I like it a lot. When I was a little girl, my mother used to say, "What do you think you are, a princess?" When I got involved in the scene, I decided she was right, I DO think I am a princess!. 

Nancy: Sexually speaking, how do you differ—if at all—from the Lynne of ten years ago? Twenty years ago? 

Princess Lynne: In the last ten years, I don't think my sexual interests have changed very much. In the last twenty years, they have. When I was a young woman, I did not know anything about the scene and had an ordinary vanilla sex life. If there has been any change in the last ten years, I'd say it has been that I've become more sadistic. Although I still play with slaves who want gentle treatment, I prefer slaves who desire pain. 

Nancy: You are a writer by profession. Do you write for pleasure as well— poems, stories, essays, journals, etc.? And, if so, please describe some of your "stuff"! Anything dealing with sex, S&M, et al? 

Princess Lynne: I do write for pleasure. I've been writing poetry since I was a teenager. I enjoy writing poetry because it is so terse—so much is said in so few words. I write about the things going on in my life, the feelings I have. The topics often to include love and sex. 

Nancy: What phenomena—people, places, things—have figured prominently in your own sexual development? Please describe two or three that stand out, and how they affected your sexuality. 

Princess Lynne: My first orgasm was with my first lover. He performed oral sex on me, and, WOW, I never realized there could be anything like that! The first night I walked into the old Hellfire Club in New York City was my very first exposure to the scene. The Hellfire Club was dirty. It was nasty! I loved it! The scene has been the major portion of my social life ever since. 

Nancy: You are a member of many S&M groups. What do you get out of these groups? You already have an S&M love relationship. Why bother with groups? 

Princess Lynne: Most of my friends are in the scene. I go to the clubs to see my friends and meet new people. I like to play in the company of others, and show off a bit; I like to see what other mistresses are doing in training their slaves. Over the years, everything I know about the scene, I've learned at S&M groups and clubs. I've learned how to handle every kind of toy from cats, to crops, to paddles to parachutes and the seven gates of hell. No matter how long I'm in the scene, I'll always be looking for new ideas. 

Nancy: What synergism do you see—if any—in the S&M world—i.e., do the groups react synergistically in relation to one another? If so, in your own S&M sphere (for instance, as a telephone dominatrix), do you note a synergistic situation? Describe, if applicable. 

Princess Lynne: Certainly there is a lot of transfer of ideas and philosophy among the groups. For example, all of the groups strictly enforce the NO drugs and NO excessive drinking policy. And, all of the groups have very similar rules, including not interfering with someone else's scene unless you are invited. The groups learn from each other. Since there is a lot of overlap of membership among the groups, we are always sharing the experiences of one group with another. In my telephone work, I learn new things from some clients, and then apply what I learn with other clients. An example of that is a darling client who is into golden showers started calling himself a "porta-slut." I liked that so much that I now often call toilet slaves porta-sluts. 

Nancy: Describe your fascination for transvestites and for other dominant/submissive erotica. 

Princess Lynne: I believe in female superiority. Therefore, I think the most valuable slaves are those slaves who try to be as feminine as possible, including wanting to dress like me. I love going out with a transvestite and causing a bit of a stir. We make people wonder. Are they two ladies looking to pick up men? Are they a lesbian couple? 

Nancy: You have met many other dominant ladies over the years. Please tell us of two or three who stand out—and what you would like readers to know about them. 

Princess Lynne: One of my first friends in the scene was a beautiful mistress named Lady Di. We often played together with our slaves. Her devilish imagination impressed me greatly. She was always thinking up new torments for her slaves. She is the first dominant I ever saw use wooden clothespins to really decorate a slave's cock and balls. She didn't just put on a few token clothespins, she completely covered them. She first made me aware of some of the rich and varied possibilities in scene play. Lady Di thoroughly enjoyed keeping her slaves in complete submission at all times, but always did everything with a twinkle in her eye. She had this marvelous harness made to go around the slaves neck and her waist to keep her slave's face right between her thighs all night long. 

Another dear friend I met early on in the scene in Mistress Linda. In her straight life, Linda is a college professor; in the scene, she is this blonde Valkyrie, riding crop in hand. Linda is a very sweet, generous woman, who also happens to be very sadistic. Her favorite toy is a riding crop, but not just any crop. She has what she calls her "ancestral" crop, which is an antique one she found in her parents' attic. Instead of having a steel core, it has an Ivory core, wrapped in white leather. This is a very serious weapon, to be used with very serious slaves. After giving her slave so many strokes that left his back completely striped, she'd tell him. "You have to take four more strokes, and these are going to be very hard." And then, of course, she always kept her word. 

Nancy: Let me ask you one of my favorite questions—What are your goals in terms of S&M, life, love, romance, and relationships in general? 
Princess Lynne: My goals at this time are maintenance goals. I'm really a happy lady. I've done what I've wanted to do and I have what I'd hoped to have. In S&M, I want to maintain my relationships with my scene friends. In my life, I want to continue to surround myself with truly good people. 

For more on Lynne please visit her website:

www.princesslynne.com

AFTERWARD

Princess Lynne is available for intelligent conversation.
Please call (908) 284-8040 for details. Free inquiry.  

(Copyright 1995 by Lynne) 

Affinities
by Princess Lynne 
Sex draws me in like Holy Glue that promises to hold this universe  together. 
That desire to join bodies breeds a certain tolerance. 
I see men  look at me and I know that we can sniff each other out just like two barnyard dogs. 
That's not enough. 
But it's something useful  in this crazy  life. 

A Love Poem
by Princess Lynne 
My men were interchangeable, pretty tiles in the mosaic of my daily life. 
My men were strangers by design, whose eyes anesthetize my flesh, and let me sleep. 
You disturb my sleep, and leave me  aching  for your touch.  I gave up being safely numb to love you. 
Your eyes touch me in a way that I forgot I needed. 

Strange Diet
by Princess Lynne 
It may be symbolic that I didn't catch your name and never asked it. 
I was more interested in the lady you were with and your relationship to her. 
And, why then you kept looking at me that way. 
As if I were a lamb chop you'd just love to eat. 
Or maybe a more sophisticated slice of some very rare roast beef. 
Those looks were unmistakable in their intent. 
And so were mine. 
We invited contact. 
You fill fantasies of what it would be like to take a bite of something almost  too sweet. 

Partner
by Princess Lynne 
The American Indian knew 
That we are all reflections 
For each other. 
You are my magic mirror. 
In your face I see 
A me that I can love. 
We play at working 
And invent new ways 
To find ourselves. 

Volcanic Glass
by Princess Lynne 
Bill Black and Beautiful is so busy being his own man that he doesn't see that it's too late for me. 
I'm in love. 
Volcanic glass. 
Icy cold obsidian  in my gut. 
Bill Black and Beautiful is an ice cold obsession and I'm afraid  that I'm in love.

Princess Lynne
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For more on Lynne please visit her website:
www.princesslynne.com